An open letter to Hope Solo & all victims of domestic violence

Dear Hope Solo;

The recent headlines surrounding the claims that you are the victim of domestic violence are troubling.  As the facts continue to evolve I sincerely hope that this is all some tragic misunderstanding and that you are not being abused by someone you love and trusted. Sadly, the statistics do not point to that reality.  Love is many things, but it should never be violent or abusive.  All too many people – still mainly women – are victimized by their spouse, partner or boyfriend.  Physical, verbal, and emotional abuse are all damaging and can inflict long term pain on the victim. Only by taking proactive steps to end the cycle of domestic violence can the healing process truly begin.

You came to our national consciousness in part to the strength and courage you displayed as a member of the national women’ soccer team.  Just as you protected the goal, you now need to protect yourself.  If the relationship is truly abusive, please leave it immediately.  If you need ongoing protection seek a restraining order.  Do not let your physical and mental strength convince you that you can handle this alone.  You cannot.

You are a role model to many people in the USA and around the world.  Many of your fans are young girls who look up to you and want to be like Hope.  Show them that domestic violence is never acceptable.  Demonstrate your true strength.  Let them see you stand up foryourself.  By doing so you can teach all the young girls who follow you the importance of self respect.  It is unfortunate that you need to go through this drama in public.  But since you must, use this as a teachable moment.  If you do, your influence will extend well beyond the soccer field.

***I have no professional relationship with Hope Solo or anyone else involved in this story. The facts of this situation continue to evolve and everyone is entitled to their day in court.***

About Sandy Durst

Sandy Durst, Esq., is the founding partner of The Durst Firm where he heads the Family Law Department. Individuals facing a divorce benefit from the combination of legal skill, common sense and compassion that Sandy brings to each and every matter. Each case is given the personalized attention it deserves.
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