Appellate Court explains necessary findings for a domestic violence case

Under NJ law, issues of domestic violence are taken seriously and are decided in accordance with the Prevention of Domestic Violence Act.  When deciding whether an act of domestic violence occurred and whether a restraining order is necessary to protect the victim, there are many factors for the court to consider.  Three key components are: (1) is there a history of domestic violence, (2) what actually happened during the underlying event and (3) what was the intention or purpose of the alleged aggressor.  In making determinations on these core issues, the credibility of each party is very important.  In many domestic violence cases there are no witnesses, no medical records and no police reports.  The testimony of each party is the sole means by which the court and learn about what happened.  As the summary below of recently decided case explains, the court must make specific findings on the credibility each party.  Additionally, with repect a harassment charge, the court must determine whether the actor/aggressor intended harass or annoy the victim.  While the perpetrator may be have intended the actions or acted purposefully, of the motivation was something other than to harass or annoy the victim the conduct may not constitute domestic violence.

 

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20-2-6628 L.S. v. J.P., App. Div. (per curiam) (6 pp.) Defendant appealed from a final restraining order entered against him under the Protection of Domestic Violence Act. His appeal focused on the court’s finding that he committed the predicate act of harassment. Plaintiff and defendant were both married to other people when they had a love affair that lasted approximately one year. During that time, they exchanged over 31,000 text messages. Over time, their respective spouses, as well as plaintiff’s son became aware of the affair. Plaintiff contended that at some point in early May 2013, she made it clear that she wanted to end all communication with defendant. She also contended that despite her wishes, defendant kept trying to communicate with her and harassing her. Defendant, on the other hand, argued that until plaintiff filed charges against him on May 29, 2013, they had an ongoing, although tumultuous, relationship. In this case, there was no finding about the credibility of the parties. More importantly, there was no finding that defendant intended to harass or annoy plaintiff as required by the statute. That is a required step before entering an FRO. The appellate panel reversed and remanded to the trial court for review and further fact finding.

 

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Your still parents, so act like it! Tips for navigating Mother’s Day & Father’s Day post-divorce.

A divorce is the legal process by which a marriage is dissolved.  This means that at the conclusion of the proceedings, you will no longer be spouses.  However, if you have child, you and your ex will continue to be parents.  So act like the grownups you are and strive to do what is best for your children.  Holidays such as Mother’s Day and Father’s Day can sadly be a source of friction for divorced parents.  Your children deserve to celebrate the day with their parent. Do not foster an environment where they feel reluctant to talk about or celebrate the other parent, our ex-spouse, when they are with you.  Take the child shopping for a mother’s day present.  Offer to extend parenting time beyond what might have been agreed to for Father’s Day.  These types of gestures will greatly benefit your child and will lead to a healthier and more productive co-parenting relationship.

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What happened to my tax refund?

Were you expecting to receive a tax refund based upon your recent tax filings? Have you received a notice of that refund has been seized and that you will not be receiving your money? If you are ordered to pay child support in the state of New Jersey and have not remained current with your obligation, any tax refund you may otherwise be entitled to receive will be seized and paid to the recipient. If your refund is less than the amount of the child support arrearages then the remaining arrearages will continue to appear  on your record. However, if the refund is greater than the amount of the accrued arrearages then the remaining funds can be released to you.
The state of New Jersey takes enforcement of child support obligations very seriously. This is why the public policy is to seize tax refunds and make sure that the parent who would have received the funds does not benefit from that money while child support goes unpaid.
If you find yourself unable to meet your child support obligations you should take steps to get the amount reduced or suspended as soon as possible. Simply ignoring the situation and allowing the arrearages to continue is not an appropriate response. Similarly, you cannot “agree” with the other parent to simply not pay child support.  To avoid the forfeiture of the tax refunds, the loss of your drivers license, or the imposition of any of the other penalties are failing to pay child support you should meet with an experienced family law attorney to seek the relief you may be entitled to.

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Does my child get to decide what parent he wants to live with?

many divorce cases involve legitimate issues of custody and parenting time. For my clients who find themselves in the situation it is understandably a frustrating and emotionally draining aspect of their case.  No matter how the issue of custody is resolved undeniable that each parent will have lots of time with their child then they may wish to have.
When attempting to resolve custody disputes the starting point is the New Jersey  custody statute which enumerates all of the relevant factors the parties, the attorneys, and the court are to consider. All of these factors are designed to identify what is in the child’s best interest.  I often have to remind clients that the decision will not be made based upon what they may want to see happen, what their spouse may want to have happen, or even one of the child may prefer.
Clients often ask if it is appropriate or helpful to have their child testify in court or speak with the judge. My opinion, and one that I believe is shared by judges throughout the state, is that the parents, the attorneys, and the court should take all steps necessary to keep children out of the court room and out of the center of custody dispute.
Placing children in the middle of the dispute can be devastating for the child and negatively impact of the parent-child relationship for years to come. Although it is possible that a court my interview a child under very limited circumstances, it is still not advisable it’s a stuck routine limitation. Even after meeting with a child of the judge can choose to disregard the preferences and opinions expressed by that child.  This reality can compound the child’s frustration and created anger and confusion over why their opinions were not considered or implemented.  

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The Durst Firm celebrates its 2 year anniversary!

May 1st is always a special day at The Durst Firm as it was May 1, 2013 when the Firm first opened.  Although I have been in practice since 1999, it wasn’t until 2013 when I finally decided to open my own firm.  Still focused on family law, The Durst Firm strives to provide effective, zealous, and practical legal guidance to NJ families going through the divorce process or facing related family law issues.  It has been both a pleasure and privilege to serve my clients and I look forward to many more years of working on behalf of men, women, and children in New Jersey.

 

I must thank my family, friends, colleagues and client, past and current, for your ongoing support. The Durst Firm would not be possible without all of you!

 

Year 3 promises to be a big one for the firm.

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