{"id":981,"date":"2012-12-12T09:34:46","date_gmt":"2012-12-12T14:34:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thedurstfirm.com\/?p=981"},"modified":"2012-12-12T09:36:43","modified_gmt":"2012-12-12T14:36:43","slug":"respond-or-react-keeping-your-emotions-in-check-during-your-divorce","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thedurstfirm.com\/?p=981","title":{"rendered":"Respond or React: Keeping your emotions in check during your divorce."},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Divorce is a time of emotional upheaval.\u00a0 It is all but certain that as you work your way through the process that situations will arise that will cause anger, resentment, confusion,\u00a0and hostility.\u00a0 Some of these situations are unavoidable and par for the course.\u00a0 Others may arise in an effort to provoke a response or a reaction.\u00a0 Whether you respond or react (for they are two very different approaches) can have a significant impact on the ultimare resolution of your divorce.<\/p>\n<p>So, what is the differnce between a response and a reaction? And why are those differences important?\u00a0 In my view, everty action that is taken during a divorce case must be designed to furhter the goal of realizing the best possible outcome for a client.\u00a0 A response is a measured, deliberate, and constructive measure.\u00a0 In contrast, a reaction is often a knee-jerk, emotionally charged impulse.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>When situations develop in your case, rely on your attorney to make the appropriate response.\u00a0 Take time to digest what is happening so as to avoid making a counterporductive reaction\u00a0.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Divorce is a time of emotional upheaval.\u00a0 It is all but certain that as you work your way through the process that situations will arise that will cause anger, resentment, confusion,\u00a0and hostility.\u00a0 Some of these situations are unavoidable and par &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/thedurstfirm.com\/?p=981\">Continue reading <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"_wpas_customize_per_network":false},"categories":[28,27,1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-981","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-durstfirm-news","category-durst-on-divorce","category-uncategorized"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p6omM8-fP","jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":2671,"url":"https:\/\/thedurstfirm.com\/?p=2671","url_meta":{"origin":981,"position":0},"title":"Respond or React? 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