{"id":2651,"date":"2020-03-15T10:14:49","date_gmt":"2020-03-15T14:14:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thedurstfirm.com\/?p=2651"},"modified":"2020-03-15T10:14:49","modified_gmt":"2020-03-15T14:14:49","slug":"co-parenting-in-these-trying-times","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thedurstfirm.com\/?p=2651","title":{"rendered":"Co-parenting in these trying times"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>When working with client\u2019s on their divorce or family law matter, I encourage them to adopt a child-centered approach.  When kids are involved, decisions must be made with an eye towards what is in their best interests.  Sometimes, this conflicts with the goals or expectations of the parent.  Parenting time disputes can arise at anytime; even more so in today\u2019s ever changing landscape as we learn more about COVID-19 and how our daily lives will be impacted.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Custody and parenting time orders are helpful in that expectations and responsibilities are defined.  Whether terms are found in a consent order or a judicial deter action, litigants are generally not free to choose when or how to disregard an order.  Generally.  And i will never advise a client to ignore a court order.  However, I will advise clients that they act reasonably and responsibly.  While NJ has not mandated quarantines, the \u201csocial distancing\u201d approach is being advocated in our state and across the county.  Such temporary restrictions on our personal lives are warranted.  And such restrictions may impact parenting time.  This is the time when parents need to work together as schools are closed and children may be home for extended periods of time.  Where and how parents work will be changing daily.  Flexibility is required now, more than ever.  Work with the other parent in meeting today\u2019s challenges.  Schedules may need to be adjusted.  If you , the other parent, or your child are exhibiting symptoms, act accordingly and in consideration of all governmental and health care recommendations.  Now is not the time for stubborn adherence to schedules.  <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When working with client\u2019s on their divorce or family law matter, I encourage them to adopt a child-centered approach. When kids are involved, decisions must be made with an eye towards what is in their best interests. Sometimes, this conflicts &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/thedurstfirm.com\/?p=2651\">Continue reading <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"_wpas_customize_per_network":false},"categories":[28],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2651","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-durstfirm-news"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p6omM8-GL","jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":1352,"url":"https:\/\/thedurstfirm.com\/?p=1352","url_meta":{"origin":2651,"position":0},"title":"Now is the time to plan for summer parenting tim","author":"Sandy Durst","date":"April 19, 2015","format":false,"excerpt":"As Spring gradually arrives here in New Jersey, it may seem to early to make plans for the upcoming summer. 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